Tips to help with waiting for your adoption during the holidays

Tips to help with waiting for your adoption during the holidays

Waiting for your adoption is never easy – it’s a long process, and it’s incredibly emotional. If you’re waiting for your adoption during the holidays, it can be even more challenging. You’ll see friends and family members you don’t see often, and inevitably, you’ll get questions about your adoption and your family. Seeing other friends and family members celebrating with their children can be tough as well.

We wanted to share a list of tips to help all the waiting families out there prepare for the holiday season, and hopefully help make the holiday wait a bit less stressful.

Keep yourself busy, but don’t do too much

Keeping yourself busy is one of the best says to keep your mind off your wait for the adoption, but it’s even more effective during the holidays. There’s so much more going on, between decorating your house, cooking, shopping, visiting friends and family, traveling, and attending parties. If you’re having a hard time finding something to do, ask friends and family if they need help with anything – […]

Tips to help with waiting for your adoption during the holidays

Can you use loans to pay for an adoption?

Can you use loans to pay for an adoption?

Every year, thousands of couples add to their families through adoption – it’s a wonderful gift that brings happiness to so many. It can be a long, confusing process, and our main goal is to try to make it as easy as possible and answer any questions we receive.

One of the questions we hear most often is “How much does it cost to adopt?”

It’s an expensive process, and many people wonder if there are any options for easing the financial burden – most often, we’re asked if loans are a possibility.

Most people don’t realize that there are pretty amazing tax benefits to adoption – click that link to head to our page and read more about how the credits work.

We found an awesome blog post that outlines the various options to help pay for adoptions, and we wanted to share it with you here on our blog. Head over to the post called Can You Use a Personal Loan to Finance Adoption Expenses? to read the details on all the options.

As always, if you’ve got any questions about adoption or any […]

Can you use loans to pay for an adoption?

6 tips to prepare for the adoption journey

6 Tips to Prepare for the Adoption Journey

The path to adoption is different for every family, and none of those paths are straight and easy. Adopting a baby is an incredible moment for any family, but the process leading up to that moment you hold your new baby is always long and difficult. You’ll ride an emotional roller coaster, so it’s important to work with an agency that’s experienced enough to know how important it is to support you every step of the way.

We know that waiting is hard… and when unforeseen issues cause delays, it’s frustrating. We wanted to write this post and share these six tips to help you prepare for your journey to adoption.

1. Do your research

It’s incredibly important that you research your options and choose the right adoption agency to work with. You need someone in your corner who you can trust, and who’ll be your advocate throughout the process. Having an agency that can help you through each step will make the process infinitely easier.

2. Set an emotional foundation

If you understand that the process isn’t easy and might take a while, you’ll be […]

6 tips to prepare for the adoption journey

Why should you choose Lifetree?

Why should you choose Lifetree?

Why should you choose Lifetree? We can give you reasons all day long… but sometimes, it helps to hear it from birthmothers who’ve placed their children with us in the past. Watch our new video to hear their stories, in their own words.

And, if you’re pregnant and considering adoption, please don’t hesitate to call us any time at 972-491-3333 – we’re here to help any time, 24 hours a day!

Why should you choose Lifetree?

You’re not giving up – you’re choosing a better future

You’re not giving up… You’re choosing a better future!

The most common phrase associated with adoption is “giving up” a child for adoption – but that’s such a negative phrase. You’re not giving your child up, you’re choosing a better future for your child. You’re giving an amazing gift to another family. You’re making people’s lives change for the better.

For many years, adoption was a dark secret of our society, but the public viewpoint has shifted. It’s no longer something to hide or talk about behind closed doors. Now that the perception has changed, it’s time to change the language we use around adoption as well.

At Lifetree, we’ve talked about using positive adoption language for years, and now that we’re posting regularly on our new site, we wanted to share a list of positive adoptions terms. The more we use these terms with family and friends, the faster the phrases will become the norm.

Instead of:

Say this instead:

Give up for adoption
Place for adoption, choose adoption, create […]

You’re not giving up – you’re choosing a better future

5 great family movies about adoption

5 great family movies about adoption

It’s Christmas time, and many families look forward to lighting a fire and settling down for family movie night (if the weather ever decides to get cold enough). As we were watching the great Will Ferrell in Elf over the Thanksgiving weekend, we started thinking about other family movies that addressed adoption.

Many families find that watching movies with positive adoption messages can help adoptees feel understood, so we thought we’d put together a fun little list of 5 great family movies that show adoption in a positive, entertaining light. Let us know what you think of our list, and share your favorites that we might have left out down in the comments.

5. Disney’s Tarzan

adoption movie - Disney's Tarzan

Tarzan is one of Disney’s greats, with awesome animation and amazing songs – but since it’s older, many kids haven’t seen it. Quite possibly the most famous adoptee in literature, Tarzan is adopted and raised by apes – but eventually questions his origins. The movie even includes song lyrics that celebrate “two worlds, one family.” Kids from 5 […]

5 great family movies about adoption

I got her pregnant… 6 Tips for birth fathers

I got her pregnant…
6 tips for birth fathers

You’ve just heard from your girlfriend, your wife, or your ex that she’s pregnant. You weren’t planning for a baby, and neither of you is ready. Take a deep breath – you’re probably in shock.

It’s perfectly normal to be scared or frustrated… We know it’s huge news. You don’t want to be the cliche – don’t claim that it’s not your child and don’t even think about leaving town. You’ve got choices too – these 6 tips will help you step up to the plate and play an active role in the decisions that will be made.

1. Don’t bail on your girlfriend/wife/ex

You can’t ignore what happened. The more you try to ignore it or run away from it, the harder it will be to think clearly and help make the right decisions.

2. Stay calm

She’s just as surprised as you are. You’re both parents-to-be, and you’ve got some big decisions to make. It’s easier to talk through your options and make the right decisions if you’re calm. Even if you’re not together anymore, she’s going to need your […]

I got her pregnant… 6 Tips for birth fathers

5 reasons pregnant women consider adoption

5 Reasons pregnant
women consider adoption

Placing a baby for adoption is an incredibly difficult decision. We talk to pregnant women all the time who have questions about adoption and how it will work. It’s important to remember that many women choose adoption – for many different reasons.

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy or you’re considering adoption, the most important thing you can do is talk to an adoption agency. Every situation is unique, and an adoption professional can help you understand all of the different aspects.

Only you know your own mind, but these are the most common reasons why a woman chooses to place her baby for adoption.

1. I’m not ready to be a mother

Many times, age is a big factor in the decision to place a child for adoption. Younger mothers often feel that they’re just not ready to raise a child. Older mothers might have already raised a family and a new baby could disrupt career plans or general lifestyle.

2. I don’t want to be a single parent

While many single mothers are successful in their careers while being amazing mothers, some women don’t feel like the […]

5 reasons pregnant women consider adoption

Considering adoption? 5 Questions to ask an adoption agency

Considering adoption?
5 questions to ask an adoption agency

If you’re pregnant and considering pacing your baby for adoption, you’re going to have a lot of questions. You can answer most of the basic questions with a little bit of Internet research, but it’s always better to get your questions answered by a real live person.

Call your local adoption agencies and ask questions – not just about the process, but about the agency. You’ll want to choose an adoption agency with experienced staff who can support you throughout the adoption process. Choosing an agency that has your best interest at heart is incredibly important.

We know it’s an overwhelming process, so we’ve put together 5 important questions to ask when you’re trying to choose an adoption agency:

1) What kind of support do you offer throughout the process?

Adoption is an emotional process – all the way through. As you make these big decisions for yourself and your baby, you’re going to need support for the range of emotions you’re going to experience. Ask if the agency’s staff will be fully available throughout the process – even on nights and weekends, […]

Considering adoption? 5 Questions to ask an adoption agency

6 books about adoption to read with your children

6 books about adoption to read with your children

Adoption used to be much more of a taboo subject with adopted children, with many parents deciding to keep the adoption a secret. Now, families are much more open, and most families explain the process to their children at an early age.

Still, when your child starts asking difficult questions, it can be hard to know how to explain more complicated and abstract concepts like adoption. Your child will likely want to know why they were placed for adoption, if they look like their birth parents, why you chose them for adoption, and other questions that might be hard to explain.

Books can be an amazing tool when it comes to explaining adoption. Authors who write books for children are experts at using simple concepts and dynamic pictures to entertain children. Several authors have written incredible books that can help you explain adoption to your children.

I Wished for You: An Adoption Story by Marianne Richmond

In this book, a young bear named Barley has a conversation with his Mama bear, and he asks the same questions most adoptive children usually ask.

Yes, […]

6 books about adoption to read with your children