The most important thing to realize is that you’re not giving up – we said it in a past blog post, and we tell every birthmother we meet… You’re not giving up, you’re choosing a better future for both you and your baby. You can’t control everything in your life, and sometimes you simply can’t handle raising a child. Choosing adoption doesn’t mean you don’t feel the same selfless, unconditional love that every parent feels… In fact, choosing adoption is proof of that love, because you’re putting your child’s future and happiness above everything.
You’re not giving up!
That’s why we always say that asking yourself “Should I give up my baby for adoption?” is never the right question to ask. You’re not giving up on your baby, or yourself. You’re “placing” your baby for adoption and choosing a better future. You’re giving an amazing gift – not only to your baby, but to the adoptive family. You’re giving another woman a chance to be a mother – and it’s entirely possible she might not have that chance without your selfless choice.
You’re not giving up on the future either – most adoptions today are “open adoptions”, where the birthmother and adoptive family stay in touch, and even get together periodically. If you choose to, you can have a relationship with your child as he or she grows up – you get to decide the level of future contact in the adoption. You’ll see the amazing life you’ve given your baby and the abundant love and happiness of their adoptive family.
Trust your gut – you know yourself. If you know you don’t have the ability or the resources to care for a baby, or if you know you’re simply not ready, that’s perfectly OK! There’s nothing wrong with needing help, and there’s nothing wrong with not being able to provide a stable future for your baby. And more than anything else – there’s nothing wrong with choosing adoption.
You’re not alone – it’s literally our job to help!
We know it’s a colossal and terrifying decision. We know you’re under pressure. But remember – this is what Lifetree is all about! We’ve dedicated our lives to helping birthmothers through the adoption process, so we know what you’re feeling! We’re here 24 hours a day – you can call us any time at 972-491-3333 (or if you’re more of a texter, you can shoot us a text at 214-516-3566)
Once you’ve chosen to place your baby for adoption, Lifetree will be there to support you through the entire process – and we’ll be around to support you afterward as well. We’ll walk you through the process, so you feel safe and comfortable in your decision. We’ll help you look through the families who are waiting to adopt, and we’ll be there with you when you meet the families you’ve narrowed down. Once you’ve chosen your family, we’ll be there with you through the rest of your pregnancy, offering support, love, a shoulder to cry on, or whatever you might need! We’ll even assist with medical care, housing, and counseling if you need the help.
We’ll make sure you never feel alone – and after the process, we’ll still be here. We keep in touch with all of our past birthmothers, and even throw a Christmas party every year to get everyone together. You’ll form a lifelong bond with Lifetree.
If you’re pregnant and not sure where to turn, give Lifetree a call. We were completely serious – we’re here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 972-491-3333 – or, if you prefer, you can fill out the form on our contact page and we’ll call you. There’s no obligation – we’re not going to pressure you into making a decision, we’ll just answer your questions and explain how adoption works.