I got her pregnant…
6 tips for birth fathers

You’ve just heard from your girlfriend, your wife, or your ex that she’s pregnant. You weren’t planning for a baby, and neither of you is ready. Take a deep breath – you’re probably in shock.

It’s perfectly normal to be scared or frustrated… We know it’s huge news. You don’t want to be the cliche – don’t claim that it’s not your child and don’t even think about leaving town. You’ve got choices too – these 6 tips will help you step up to the plate and play an active role in the decisions that will be made.

1. Don’t bail on your girlfriend/wife/ex

You can’t ignore what happened. The more you try to ignore it or run away from it, the harder it will be to think clearly and help make the right decisions.

2. Stay calm

She’s just as surprised as you are. You’re both parents-to-be, and you’ve got some big decisions to make. It’s easier to talk through your options and make the right decisions if you’re calm. Even if you’re not together anymore, she’s going to need your support.

3. Listen to your girlfriend/wife/ex

It’s important to remember that the situation affects her – it’s not just about you. In fact, you’ve got three lives to consider now, so it’s important to listen to her and understand her perspective.

4. Don’t pressure your girlfriend/wife/ex

If you put pressure on her to make a certain decision, you’ll just push her further away. You have to respect her feelings and make the decision together.

5. Talk about your options

You have some huge, life-altering decisions to make… Talk about your options with your girlfriend/wife/ex, and talk about those potential choices with friends and family members as well. If you’re open and honest with those closest to you, they’ll be able to help you make the right decisions.

6. Get more info about your options

You’ve got to make the right decision for the both of you – and for your baby. You’ll have to choose between abortion, adoption, or being a parent. You’ll need information on each option in order to make the right decision.

If you’re looking for info on adoption, you’re already in the right place. We’d also be happy to chat with you and explain the process in detail – call us any time at (972) 491-3333. We’ll help you make the right decision for you and your baby.

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